Most people think danger comes from the shady guy lurking in the shadows. But the truth is, the most dangerous attackers hardly ever look like villains. They look safe. They look friendly. They could be the neighbour who always greets you, the repairman at your gate, or the stranger who offers to help carry your groceries. Predators know that trust is their best weapon, and that is exactly how they get close without raising suspicion.
That outfit could cost you your life. Tight jeans, high heels, long nails and heavy handbags might look good, but they can also stop you from running, fighting or breaking free when danger strikes.
Your playlist could cost you your life. Jogging with music in your ears might feel motivating, but it also makes you the easiest target on the road. Attackers love distracted runners because the beat in your headphones hides the sound of their footsteps.
Politeness can be deadly. Too many people get into dangerous situations because they do not want to look rude or make someone else uncomfortable. Predators count on this. Your fear of being impolite could cost you your safety.
Think you are safe online? Think again. Every photo, every check-in, every status update you share could be a map for someone who wants to hurt you. Predators do their homework long before you ever meet them. What you post today could make you a target tomorrow.
If you have been attacked and you managed to defend yourself, you already proved something important: you are stronger than you thought.
In South Africa many people believe that moving into a residential estate, wildlife estate or lifestyle estate will keep them safe. They see the high walls, the electric fencing, the guards at the gate, cameras on poles and access control. It all looks very professional. The problem is that these things only create the feeling of safety. They do not make you truly safe.
When people think about self defense they often imagine a violent attack where they must fight back or run for their lives. The truth is that the most important part of staying safe happens long before the fight or flight stage. It happens in the tiny choices you make every day. I call these micro decisions.
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“How do I get out if someone grabs me like this?” This question usually comes from women, especially when they worry about being pinned down by a man in a rape situation.
Many people wonder how they would react if a criminal suddenly confronted them.
When it comes to self defence, many people assume that a firearm gives them an overwhelming advantage against an attacker armed with a knife. Films and television often reinforce this idea: if you have a gun and your attacker has a blade, you win. But reality is not that simple. In fact, research and training in law enforcement circles has shown that a knife wielding attacker can be just as dangerous, if not more so, within certain distances.